Last week I asked you four questions to help you see if you had strong personal and leadership boundaries in place or whether there is room for improvement.
Lack of boundaries is one of the things that makes it hard to focus, keeps us stuck in overwhelm and exhaustion and confuses our teams (or, worse, makes them come to you for everything rather than making a decision).
Start with one thing.
It could be something as simple as starting your meetings on time and not waiting for stragglers who log on or turn up ten minutes late. – They’re not valuing your time.
It could mean leaving the meeting on time (you know, the one that always over-runs) – Value your own time and your other commitments.
It could mean saying ‘As interesting as it sounds, I’m fully committed with x right now so I don’t have the time to do your project justice’.
It could mean telling your team you are unavailable for a certain time each day – or you are available for questions at certain times (not all times). (Valuing your time to think, focus, plan, prepare and just ‘be’). Your door should NOT be ‘always open’.
Time is precious. Spend it in ways that bring joy and add value to your life and your work.
Remember, as Bronnie Ware tells us, one of the biggest regrets of the dying is: ‘I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me’.
Here’s to being true to yourself.
If wobbly boundaries is a thing for you, my masterclass ‘From People Pleaser to PowerHouse’ on 17 May will help. Here’s the link to register.