A few weeks ago, I was taking part in a training programme and this other participant with the intellect size of a planet said something…can’t remember his exact words
I remember how I felt. First words in my head were, “WHAT A PATRONISING ***! 🤬”
My gut clenched, my shoulders tightened – I was on high alert!
But I said nothing (didn’t want to turn into an obnoxious **** myself which quite honestly could have happened the way I felt!)
The younger version of me, loaded with cortisol, would have gone on the attack or bitten my tongue and said nothing – but seethed resentfully for the next hour working myself up into a fair old rage.
These days I take a deep breath before saying anything in these situations. Because I recognise those tell-tale physical signs early on (always gut and shoulders, for me!)
I’m more self-aware now. So, I know that when something is triggering to me, it’s often highlighting a part of me I don’t want to acknowledge.
And yes, I was jealous of his huge brain and articulate delivery.
Jealousy – the little green monster – is not something we readily want to admit, is it?
Conclusion? It was more about how I felt rather than his actions or words.
Has it ever happened to you as well?
These triggers teach us a lot about our own beliefs, insecurities and behaviour patterns.
Next time when you find yourself in a room with a condescending or patronising ***..
Are they really that person or – are you not owning something in yourself?
No judgement – but here’s to recognising our triggers and asking ourselves those tough questions.
Here’s to your success as always.